Our position of ego strength has five basic pillars. The first pillar is the strength we draw spiritually… “God is my strength.”. The second is financial… “Can I afford to pay to make my problems go away?” The third is our social circle… “I need your help.” The fourth is our conceptual ability and intelligence… “I can outthink my problems.” The fifth pillar is based on our habits, which are comparable to Freud’s model of the id, or our instincts. The average level of strength of three habits combined, our conceptual abilities, people positive habits, and self-confidence combine to help your coach gauge the strength of your ego position. If your score from testing these areas is low, your coaching program will be designed to increase your ego strength through planned actions and achievements.
If your ego strength is high, you will be encouraged to coach, mentor, and lead others as a part of your own program. However, if your ego strength is too high, it can lead to a sense of strength and confidence that is so strong it leaves you vulnerable to not seeing and sensing potential threats and dangers from high stress levels.
What destroys our ego strength? Failure and fear. Children subjected to parenting practices that rule through fear and communicate to them that they are not good enough, instilling failure into the child and this environment compromises their ego strength from day one. School systems that are hostile places of bullies and failure. Depression, anxiety, trauma, eating disorders, addictions, and other issues that benefit from psychotherapy and specialized treatment programs.
What builds up our ego strength?
Building a better tomorrow for ourselves so we can stop living in the fears and failures of our past. This is done through actions of progress and success every day, and it’s hard work at first to build these new patterns and habits. Through our words and our actions we can also help to build up the ego strength of our friends and families.